Found an interesting article on the Huffington Post about
how adoption is portrayed in the media:
"Here are just a few of the examples I was considering as a jumping-off point, and I did not make any of these up: A new reality show called I'm Having Their Baby, which films pregnant women as they agonize over the decision of whether to place their newborns for adoption; a headline in a New Jersey newspaper, "Did They Adopt Their Killer?" atop a story about a 26-year-old man accused of murdering the father and grandmother who had brought him up "as their own" for two decades; and an online poster of two infants, the laughing one assuring the crying one, "Dude! I'm joking, you're not adopted!"
Ah, welcome to the wonderful world of adoption, a place where women are baby-delivery devices for other parents, where men slay the people who raise them because they are not biologically related, and where the very idea of having entered a family in this way is so unnerving that it makes you weep."
Read the
full article on HuffPo. I think parts of it may be a bit hyperbolic, but I'm interested to watch how my own feelings on this evolve especially once we have a placement.
My favorite adoption attitude story comes from back in the 50's when we were kids. We went to visit my mom's college friend. She and her husband had adopted 3 children because they were told they could never 'have any of their own'. Of course, once the house was full, she did get pregnant with Scotty, who was about 3 or 4 at the time of our visit. During our visit, one of the older kids, at least 6 or 7 years old, told Mom "Please be careful what you say to Scotty. He doesn't know he wasn't adopted."
ReplyDeleteHa! A little shift in perspective can be a good thing, I guess.
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