As we're getting ready to welcome a baby into our home, we often get some of the same questions from our family and friends. One of them generally goes like this:
"So what are you going to name the baby? (pause, then a slightly confused look) Wait, who names the baby?"
Choosing adoption has definitely been a learning experience for us, and the same goes for everyone else in our lives as well. Who does end up naming this child, since he'll have both birth and adoptive parents? For that matter, how does the state end up recognize multiple sets of parents?
Then the adoption happens. When the adoption is finalized, a new birth certificate is issued, and the original certificate becomes a sealed record of the court. The new birth certificate lists the adoptive parents only, and it lists a name for the child of their choosing. So the adoptive parents also get to name the child.
In our case, we know that Carly already has a name picked out for this child, which will be on the original birth certificate. Brian and I are still choosing a name for ourselves, and we aren't quite sure yet what that will be. We're also considering using one of the names Carly has picked as a middle name for this child, as a way to honor his birth family. But everything's still up in the air for the moment - all we know for sure is that he's going to be a Magee!