Just a brief update here to cover the past couple of days since our last post. We've been home with Dominic for about 8 hours now. After an evening full of Skype calls and visitors, I'm looking forward to our first night with Dominic. Whether we sleep or not, I really appreciate that he will be here with us. The past two days have been eventful, joyous, and traumatic.
After spending an extra day around the hospital in Tacoma, I think we've become even stronger proponents of open adoption. As a group with myself, Andy, Carly, and Dominic, we were lucky to spend so much time together during Dominic's first two days. There were so many firsts that we were all there to experience. Whether it was his first diaper change or his first bath when he opened his beautiful eyes, I know that it was important for all of us to be together. With an open adoption, all of us are now family for each other.
Andy and I really care for Carly because she is truly a wonderful person. After Carly chose us to be the adoptive parents for her baby, we have gotten to know more about each other than some of our closest friends may know each of us. Of course, that also made today extremely difficult. We knew it would be tough for Carly when it came time to entrust little Jackson William (now Dominic Jackson) into our care. However, just sitting here writing this is extremely difficult for me as I vividly remember how emotional that actually was. I can honestly say that nothing I've experienced has ever been so heart wrenching in my life.
As I said, I'm an even stronger proponent of open adoption after today. In closed adoptions, today would never have happened. The adoptive parents in a closed adoption would never have met the birthmother or been given the chance to see the extent of love for the baby from the friends and family of the birthparents and even from the birthmother herself. Instead, open adoptions provide the opportunity for everyone to stay involved and for babies like Dominic to receive love and attention from everyone that cares about him. With open adoption, saying 'goodbye' at the hospital wasn't saying goodbye forever...it was merely saying goodbye for today and knowing that today's goodbye would become tomorrow's 'hello'.