Sunday, November 4, 2012

Open Question Thread

We were chatting with our good friend Kyle today, and he brought up a great point: while we've had the chance to write about many adoption-related topics on this blog, he still had a lot of other remaining questions to ask us. (Coincidentally, his first question was actually about naming the child, which we just wrote about earlier today!)

So at Kyle's suggestion, we'll open this one up for questions :) I can't promise that we have all the answers, and given the craziness of the upcoming week we may not be able to respond right away, but we want to invite any and all questions about how this process is going to be working for us. Just leave a note in the comments and we'll do our best!

10 comments:

  1. From Aunt Mary: What do you want the baby to call you, Daddy and Dad, Daddy and Papa, etc?

    We're not quite sure yet, actually. It's likely going to be "Daddy Andy" and "Daddy Brian", or "Daddy A" and "Daddy B". But if something else happens organically, we can work with that too!

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  2. I'm curious: how are you guys FEELING? I'm sure the last few weeks have been a whirlwind of emotions! Also, any plans do enjoy your last week (!) as a child-free couple?

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    1. It's been crazy! Generally a good crazy, but still there's just been a ton going on. I think it's been good that we're generally keeping busy, because whenever I slow down it starts to hit me just how much our lives are going to be changing, and so soon! But I think we're as ready as we ever will be, and this will be a very welcome change for both of us.

      We actually went out for Halloween last weekend, and that was a bit of a "last hurrah" for me. Brian's going ahead with a bowling tournament this coming weekend, which he had signed up for a ways back before we got the call about this placement. So it's going to be a busy weekend, but hopefully a fun one too! And then on Monday, everything starts to change...

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  3. This may be a hard one (and you most certainly do not have to answer!) But I've been wondering, since your child has a full biological sibling and it's an open adoption, do you intend they will know each other as brothers? Will you have a relationship with that child, as well?

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    1. There definitely will be some kind of relationship, yes! A major reason Carly wanted to pursue an open adoption was so that these two kids could grow up knowing each other. And from our end, we were really excited to hear that there was a full biological sibling around, since they would share a connection that we can't give this child in any other way.

      As to what we'll call them, I don't think we know exactly yet, but at the end of the day it'll just be a label. It may be that they're "brothers", "biological brothers", "cousins", "family", or something else entirely. But they'll definitely know each other, and we'll explain to our child what their relationship to each other is (in an age-appropriate way), so the important part is that they'll be able to get to know each other as they grow.

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    2. That's a great perspective. Very cool!

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  4. There's a rumor going around that the baby will be named "Ivor." Any truth to this?

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    1. I've also heard rumors of "Waffles" and "Toodler". I guess you'll just have to wait and see!

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    2. My partner liked to refer to our twins as "Pancake" and "Waffle" when our surrogate was pregnant. I'm not quite sure how that came about. We didn't go with those names after they were born, though. :-)

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  5. I think Waffles would be the best choice for all concerned with the child's well-being.

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